This is not my first experience with Bangladesh people, they always do this.
But before you start dragging me, let me explain myself properly.
I have been looking for like-minded people on X.
People who understand the kind of things I am trying to build.
People who enjoy telling stories.
If you have even one person around you who understands your vision without you having to explain everything ten times, please value that person.
Seriously.
Value people who think the same way as you.
Value people who can look at an idea and immediately understand where you are going with it.
Because sometimes, you can meet hundreds of people online and still feel like you are alone.
That was what I was trying to avoid.
I wanted to build a small circle of people who could share ideas, tell better stories, improve their writing and generally grow together.
So I met this Bangladesh guy.
At first, I genuinely thought he was Nigerian.
The way he came into my DM was normal. He was basically applauding me for the things
He told me he liked what I was doing and how I was putting myself out there.
I appreciated it.
We started talking a little bit.
Then I asked him one important question.
“Do you know how to tell stories?”
He replied with a capital YES.
The confidence in that YES was enough for me.
I said okay, this guy might actually fit in.
So I added him to the WhatsApp group.
Everything was normal until I saw his phone number.
+88.
I looked at it again.
I was like…
“Wait.”
This one is not Nigerian.
😂
I asked him where he was living.
He said Bangladesh.
At that point, I wanted to feel somehow because I had already assumed he was Nigerian.
But honestly, I hate racism.
I don't like judging people based on where they come from, their skin colour, their accent or anything like that.
So I told myself, no problem.
This is a new person.
Let me welcome him.
In fact, I even promised myself that I was going to teach him how Nigerians vibe.
Because if you enter a Nigerian WhatsApp group, you need to understand the energy.
You need to understand the jokes.
You need to understand when somebody is serious and when somebody is just catching cruise.
You need to understand “abeg,” “no wahala,” “e don do,” and all those things.
So I welcomed him.
Then, during our conversation, he asked me something.
He asked if we do business.
I was confused.
I asked him what type of business he was talking about.
He said he wanted to know what we were into.
I told him:
“Marketing.”
That was my answer.
Marketing.
Simple.
Nothing complicated.
After that, the guy did not reply again.
I waited.
Nothing.
I checked again later.
Still nothing.
At some point, I just continued with what I was doing.
Then after some hours, I discovered that he had left the WhatsApp group.
I saw it and just laughed.
Honestly, I didn't bother asking him why.
I didn't send him a message like:
“Bro, why did you leave?”
I didn't chase him.
I didn't try to convince him to come back.
And the funniest part?
I was actually relieved.
Because deep down, I never really wanted him in the group in the first place.
I was just trying to give him a chance because I thought maybe I had found someone who was genuinely interested in what we were doing.
But his actions made me realise something.
Not everybody who approaches you because they like what you are doing actually wants to build with you.
Some people are only interested in finding out what you are doing.
They want to know what you're working on.
They want to know who is involved.
They want to know whether there is money somewhere.
They want to know whether there is an opportunity they can benefit from.
And once they don't see what they are looking for, they disappear.
That experience made me think about the kind of people I have been meeting online.
Especially in Crypto.
There are so many people everywhere.
Everybody is talking.
Everybody is building.
Everybody says they want to grow.
Everybody says they are looking for opportunities.
But when you actually sit down and try to build something with people, you start seeing the difference.
Some people are not really interested in building.
They are just moving from place to place looking for something they can leverage.
They are looking for signals.
They are looking for the next project.
They are looking for the next person who might have information.
They are looking for whatever can benefit them immediately.
And once they don't see it, they move on.
That is why I now appreciate genuine connections more.
I don't care if you are from Nigeria, Bangladesh, Ghana, Kenya, America or anywhere else.
If your mindset is similar to mine and you genuinely want to build, I can work with you.
That's the important thing.
Because finding somebody who understands your thinking is actually rare.
You can explain your idea to ten people and nine of them might not understand why you are doing it.
But then you meet one person and everything just clicks.
You don't have to explain too much.
You both understand the goal.
You can exchange ideas.
You can correct each other.
You can laugh together.
You can build together.
Those are the people you should keep.
So, looking back at the whole Bangladesh guy situation, I don't even think the real issue was that he was from Bangladesh.
The issue was the experience.
I expected to find someone who was interested in storytelling and building a community.
Instead, I met someone who seemed more interested in knowing what kind of business we were doing.
The moment I said marketing, the conversation practically ended.
Then he left.
No problem.
Life goes on.
But it taught me something.
Not everyone who enters your DM is supposed to become your friend.
Not everyone who praises your work is interested in your journey.
Not everyone who says YES when you ask them if they can tell stories will actually stick around to learn, contribute or build.
And that is okay.
You just have to recognise it early.
These days, I would rather have three genuine people around me than have a WhatsApp group filled with fifty people who are only there because they are hoping to find something they can benefit from.
I am still looking for my kind of people.
The storytellers.
The builders.
The people who actually want to improve.
The people who don't disappear because there is no immediate money attached to something.
And if you already have people like that around you, don't take them for granted.
Value them.
Because in a world where everybody is looking for what they can get from you, finding people who genuinely want to grow with you is a blessing.
Those people are rare.
Keep them close.
But before you start dragging me, let me explain myself properly.
I have been looking for like-minded people on X.
People who understand the kind of things I am trying to build.
People who enjoy telling stories.
People who can see something ordinary happen and turn it into something people actually want to read.
People who are not just on Crypto Twitter to chase every new opportunity they see.
Honestly, I have now realised that finding people who genuinely think like you is not easy.
Honestly, I have now realised that finding people who genuinely think like you is not easy.
Very difficult.
If you have even one person around you who understands your vision without you having to explain everything ten times, please value that person.
Seriously.
Value people who think the same way as you.
Value people who can look at an idea and immediately understand where you are going with it.
Because sometimes, you can meet hundreds of people online and still feel like you are alone.
That was what I was trying to avoid.
I wanted to build a small circle of people who could share ideas, tell better stories, improve their writing and generally grow together.
So I met this Bangladesh guy.
At first, I genuinely thought he was Nigerian.
The way he came into my DM was normal. He was basically applauding me for the things
I was doing on CT.
He told me he liked what I was doing and how I was putting myself out there.
I appreciated it.
We started talking a little bit.
Then I asked him one important question.
“Do you know how to tell stories?”
He replied with a capital YES.
The confidence in that YES was enough for me.
I said okay, this guy might actually fit in.
So I added him to the WhatsApp group.
Everything was normal until I saw his phone number.
+88.
I looked at it again.
I was like…
“Wait.”
This one is not Nigerian.
😂
I asked him where he was living.
He said Bangladesh.
At that point, I wanted to feel somehow because I had already assumed he was Nigerian.
But honestly, I hate racism.
I don't like judging people based on where they come from, their skin colour, their accent or anything like that.
So I told myself, no problem.
This is a new person.
Let me welcome him.
In fact, I even promised myself that I was going to teach him how Nigerians vibe.
Because if you enter a Nigerian WhatsApp group, you need to understand the energy.
You need to understand the jokes.
You need to understand when somebody is serious and when somebody is just catching cruise.
You need to understand “abeg,” “no wahala,” “e don do,” and all those things.
So I welcomed him.
Then, during our conversation, he asked me something.
He asked if we do business.
I was confused.
I asked him what type of business he was talking about.
He said he wanted to know what we were into.
I told him:
“Marketing.”
That was my answer.
Marketing.
Simple.
Nothing complicated.
After that, the guy did not reply again.
I waited.
Nothing.
I checked again later.
Still nothing.
At some point, I just continued with what I was doing.
Then after some hours, I discovered that he had left the WhatsApp group.
I saw it and just laughed.
Honestly, I didn't bother asking him why.
I didn't send him a message like:
“Bro, why did you leave?”
I didn't chase him.
I didn't try to convince him to come back.
And the funniest part?
I was actually relieved.
Because deep down, I never really wanted him in the group in the first place.
I was just trying to give him a chance because I thought maybe I had found someone who was genuinely interested in what we were doing.
But his actions made me realise something.
Not everybody who approaches you because they like what you are doing actually wants to build with you.
Some people are only interested in finding out what you are doing.
They want to know what you're working on.
They want to know who is involved.
They want to know whether there is money somewhere.
They want to know whether there is an opportunity they can benefit from.
And once they don't see what they are looking for, they disappear.
That experience made me think about the kind of people I have been meeting online.
Especially in Crypto.
There are so many people everywhere.
Everybody is talking.
Everybody is building.
Everybody says they want to grow.
Everybody says they are looking for opportunities.
But when you actually sit down and try to build something with people, you start seeing the difference.
Some people are not really interested in building.
They are just moving from place to place looking for something they can leverage.
They are looking for signals.
They are looking for the next project.
They are looking for the next person who might have information.
They are looking for whatever can benefit them immediately.
And once they don't see it, they move on.
That is why I now appreciate genuine connections more.
I don't care if you are from Nigeria, Bangladesh, Ghana, Kenya, America or anywhere else.
If your mindset is similar to mine and you genuinely want to build, I can work with you.
That's the important thing.
Because finding somebody who understands your thinking is actually rare.
You can explain your idea to ten people and nine of them might not understand why you are doing it.
But then you meet one person and everything just clicks.
You don't have to explain too much.
You both understand the goal.
You can exchange ideas.
You can correct each other.
You can laugh together.
You can build together.
Those are the people you should keep.
So, looking back at the whole Bangladesh guy situation, I don't even think the real issue was that he was from Bangladesh.
The issue was the experience.
I expected to find someone who was interested in storytelling and building a community.
Instead, I met someone who seemed more interested in knowing what kind of business we were doing.
The moment I said marketing, the conversation practically ended.
Then he left.
No problem.
Life goes on.
But it taught me something.
Not everyone who enters your DM is supposed to become your friend.
Not everyone who praises your work is interested in your journey.
Not everyone who says YES when you ask them if they can tell stories will actually stick around to learn, contribute or build.
And that is okay.
You just have to recognise it early.
These days, I would rather have three genuine people around me than have a WhatsApp group filled with fifty people who are only there because they are hoping to find something they can benefit from.
I am still looking for my kind of people.
The storytellers.
The builders.
The people who actually want to improve.
The people who don't disappear because there is no immediate money attached to something.
And if you already have people like that around you, don't take them for granted.
Value them.
Because in a world where everybody is looking for what they can get from you, finding people who genuinely want to grow with you is a blessing.
Those people are rare.
Keep them close.
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